September 6, 2026
How to Develop Biblical Friendships
“… the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” – 1 Samuel 18:1
How do I develop biblical friendships?
Proverbs 27
Friendships
You become like the people you walk with consistently. – Proverbs 13:20; 1 Corinthians 15:33
Be the friend that you desire to have – Philippians 2:3-4
God will often do His deepest work in you through another person, empowered by the Holy Spirit. – Proverbs 27:5-6
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” – Proverbs 27:17
Biblical friendship is when a friend …
Helps me become more aware of God
Helps me be more honest about myself
Helps me be more responsive to what God is doing
Biblical friends …
1. Strengthen your faith in God – 2 Samuel 18-20; 2 Samuel 23:16
“And Jonathan, Saul’s son, rose and went to David at Horesh, and strengthened his hand in God.” – 1 Samuel 23:16
Jonathan + David
Jonathan didn’t merely strengthen David’s confidence
He strengthened David in God
Biblical friends …
2. Remain present even when circumstances are inconvenient – Ruth 1
“… where you go I will go …” – Ruth 1:16
Ruth demonstrates …
Loyalty
Proximity
Sacrifice
Faithfulness in suffering
Life shared
Spiritual commitment
Biblical friends …
3. Recognize what God can do through us before anyone else – Acts 9:26-28; Acts 11:22-26
“… Barnabas took him [Saul] … declared to them how on the road he had seen the Lord…” – Acts 9:27
Barnabas
Saw past Saul’s past
Saw what God might do through him
Vouched for him and served with him
Biblical friends …
4. Remind us of who we are when we’ve forgotten – 2 Timothy 1
“Fan into flame the gift of God…” – 2 Timothy 1:6
Biblical friends don’t just know our struggles; they remind us of our strengths.
Biblical friends …
5. Speak the truth in love – Proverbs 27:5-6
“Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend…” – Proverbs 27:5-6
Biblical friends …
6. Emphasize self-sacrifice before personal gain. – John 15:12-17
“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” – John 15:13
Does this friendship draw us closer to God?
The greatest friendships aren’t those that simply help us enjoy life but those that help us faithfully follow Jesus.
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Recommended resource:
Spiritual Friendship
by Mindy Caliguire